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Counselling for Intergenerational Trauma in Burnaby

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Counselling for Intergenerational trauma in BC

Starting counselling for intergenerational trauma is similar to driving. Like driving different vehicles, it may take time to determine which counselling modality is the best fit for you in sessions. I sit next to you in the passenger seat and ensure you are safe, heard, validated, and supported as you drive. In counselling, we unpack your intergenerational trauma and how it impacts you. We discuss your coping mechanisms, and I share strategies to help you heal and process your intergenerational trauma. Some sessions may involve driving in difficult terrain as you share upsetting and painful experiences from your life. But you are not alone; we process these experiences as we move forward together. You can pull over, slow down, or change lanes anytime. You gain new insight and understanding, which creates new experiences and awareness. Driving home after your counselling session, you feel validated, supported, reassured, and more resilient. You also reflect on your inner child and meeting their needs.

Counselling for Intergenerational Trauma. Couple arguing in front of child.
Counselling for Intergenerational Trauma. Couple arguing in front of child.

I am a registered clinical counsellor (#19428) dedicated to supporting individuals who have experienced intergenerational trauma.

We work together to explore how your intergenerational trauma impacts your life. This happens in a safe, non-judgmental, and private space in Burnaby and online. For some survivors of intergenerational trauma, their self-esteem, self-worth, and self-talk are impacted. Others have negative core beliefs that stem from their childhood, which surface when they feel triggered in the present day.

At Ease Counseling in Burnaby, I offer individual, in-person, and online counselling for intergenerational trauma for adults and youth. I work with you to help you achieve your goals and improve your mental health.

As your counsellor, I ensure you feel seen, heard, validated, and accepted. Starting your healing journey takes courage, and I am here to support you every step of the way.

Understanding intergenerational trauma

When you think about your intergenerational trauma, you may feel uncomfortable discussing it with friends or family members. You may have minimised your intergenerational trauma as a means to cope, and part of you may have normalised your experience. At Ease Counselling in Burnaby provides a safe space to share and heal from your intergenerational trauma. Intergenerational trauma can impact your life in several ways. For example:

Intergenerational trauma impacts your ability to concentrate in school or pursue goals once you graduate.

Intergenerational trauma results in feelings of anger, hurt, and shame, and you struggle to cope with these feelings.

Intergenerational trauma impacts your identity and your sense of self.

Intergenerational trauma affects your relationship with your family members.

Symptoms of intergenerational trauma

Intergenerational trauma survivors may struggle to cope when these experiences manifest on the surface. Some examples include:

Growing up, your primary caregiver did not validate your feelings, and as a result, as an adult, you seek external validation.

Your parents were physically present but emotionally unavailable.

You struggle to build a healthy, secure attachment with an intimate romantic partner.

Growing up, you witnessed your primary caregiver struggle to regulate their emotions, and as an adult, you struggle to regulate your emotions.

You normalised the abuse and neglect you experienced after learning about the abuse your parents experienced.

At Ease counselling in Burnaby provides a nonjudgmental, kind, and compassionate space to help you process and unpack your intergenerational trauma. Together, we focus on your needs, which may include the following:

Building a healthy relationship with yourself which includes gaining self-acceptance and self-love.

Building healthy relationships with others, including an intimate romantic partner.

Processing some of your anger, hurt, and shame and cultivating self-compassion and self-kindness towards yourself.

Establishing boundaries when possible and prioritizing your needs and wants in relationships with others.

Benefits of counselling for intergenerational trauma

Connection

Counselling for intergenerational trauma in Burnaby focuses on the connection between intergenerational trauma and your present struggles or places where you feel stuck. For example, your attachment style, needs, and fears may stem from the intergenerational trauma you experienced. You may struggle with anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and self-worth, which may also stem from your intergenerational trauma. You may minimize or normalize the trauma you experienced as a means to cope.

Explore

Counselling for intergenerational trauma in Burnaby explores how your intergenerational trauma impacts your life. We explore how it impacts your thoughts, feelings, view of self, and relationship with others. Moreover, we focus on negative core beliefs, their origin, and how they impact your life. We also identify triggers and how you react or respond when triggered. I am also curious to learn about your current coping mechanisms, and I share skills and techniques to help you process your triggers. I support you in challenging negative core beliefs and strengthening your relationship with yourself.

Heal

Counselling for intergenerational trauma in Burnaby helps you heal from your intergenerational trauma. You may have coping mechanisms, but these may no longer be effective. I share tools and strategies that help you cope with and process your intergenerational abuse. Some of your intergenerational trauma may stem from your childhood and unresolved childhood issues. In these cases, some of our work together may include healing your inner child and understanding how your unresolved issues impact you as an adult. Finally, we focus on learning and developing self-kindness, self-compassion, and self-love.

Why Choose At Ease Counselling?

Client-driven approach

At Ease Counselling sessions focus on meeting you where you are and working at your pace alongside you with compassion, kindness, and curiosity in Burnaby and online.

Evidence-based modalities

At Ease Counselling services, I incorporate evidence-based modalities in every session. I am trained in various evidence-based modalities, including Acceptance Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. Each of these modalities equips me to support your unique needs, and we work together to achieve your counselling goals.

Anti-oppressive practice

At Ease Counselling understands the impact of inequality and oppression when supporting you in a safe, non-judgmental, inclusive space in Burnaby and online. People from all ethnic backgrounds, genders, and sexual orientations, including 2SLGBTQI+, are welcome.