Living with perfectionism can feel like driving with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake. You’re always pushing forward, striving to do your best, but the pressure to avoid mistakes or disappointment keeps pulling you back. Counselling doesn’t ask you to stop caring or let go of your values. Instead, we take time to slow down and examine what’s beneath the constant drive. We’ll create space to understand the fears, expectations, and self-criticism that fuel your perfectionism. Some days, it may feel like you’re in control. Other times, you might feel overwhelmed, stuck in loops of overthinking, procrastination, or burnout. Counselling can help you find a steadier rhythm, one where your self-worth isn’t tied to performance and where being “enough” doesn’t depend on getting everything right.
I am a registered clinical counsellor (#19428) dedicated to helping individuals understand and unpack their perfectionism.
We work together to explore your perfectionism and how it comes to the surface. This happens in a safe, non-judgmental space in Burnaby and online. Your perfectionism may appear in school, work, relationships, or how you view yourself. I work with you to build self-acceptance, self-kindness, and self-compassion.
At Ease Counseling in Burnaby, I offer individual, in-person, and online perfectionism counselling for adults and youth. I work with you to help you achieve your goals and improve your mental health.
As your counsellor, I ensure you feel seen, heard, validated, and accepted. Starting your healing journey takes courage, and I am here to support you every step of the way.
Perfectionism counselling in Burnaby focuses on the connection between your thoughts, feelings, body sensations, and behaviour. When your perfectionism comes to the surface, you may spend more time trying to complete a task. You may decline social invitations to dedicate more time and energy to completing an assignment, which may leave you feeling frustrated. This may impact your self-talk and how you view yourself. For example, you may think you are slow at work and consequently worry about being behind. You may also feel frustrated with yourself and question why you need things to be perfect before you can relax. We unpack this and more in counselling.
Perfectionism counselling in Burnaby explores how your perfectionism impacts your life. Together, we look at how critical thoughts and fears of not being “good enough” show up in your life. This negative core belief may stem from your childhood or past trauma. I am curious to learn how your negative core beliefs impact your thoughts and behaviour. For example, you may feel like you need to prove your worth at work by working harder or longer hours. You go above and beyond what your manager expects of you, and while you are highly regarded, this comes at a cost. You may worry that you are letting others down if you make a mistake or cannot complete an additional task. As a result, you find yourself overthinking and unable to sleep. I share skills and techniques to help you shift your thoughts, and we gently challenge negative core beliefs together.
Perfectionism counselling in Burnaby helps you heal from the impact of perfectionism. You may struggle with harsh, critical self-talk that prevents you from engaging in new opportunities. You may find yourself working long hours to achieve the best results, which results in burnout. We work together to prioritise self-care and ensure your basic needs are met. Some clients believe that if they do things perfectly, others will accept and validate them. We work on your view of self, building self-acceptance and self-validation. Other clients share that if things are perfect, others won’t criticise them and they will be happy. In counselling, we focus on things you control, like your inner dialogue, thoughts, and feelings, and accepting that we don’t control how other people react or feel.
